Category: Networks

  • The Next Divide

    The Next Divide

    There’s a divide on the horizon, and it’s unlike ones we’ve seen in the past.

    When we use the word “divide” to describe a phenomenon, it usually refers to access; one group of people has access to a resource, while a second group does not. We’ve seen this around the world with clean water, education, and nutritious foods. If you happen to be born in a country that doesn’t have one of these resources (or a limited supply of one), you’re at a disadvantage and there’s not much you can do about it – tough luck.

    But today we’re looking at a different divide, one which I believe will be synonymous with the 21st century. It has to do with access, but in a completely new way.

    I call it, “The Next Divide” and it’s a digital one.

    Chapter 1:  Active vs Passive

    Are you using your phone, or is your phone using you?

    We live in an amazing time. Your phone can retrieve endless quantities of entertainment, social connection and knowledge.

    Consider for a moment that you’re able to travel back in time to 1980. You encounter your 1980’s doppelgänger self and you do your best to explain smartphones in 2019.

    Let’s face it, we tend to spend a large portion of our time surfing our phones without meaningful intent. This isn’t completely our fault, it more has to do with the implicit relationship between you and your phone.

    While your phone offers you endless possibilities, it comes at a cost. Instead of money, most apps demand something else: your time and attention.

    New-age business models

    Internet companies (and many smartphone apps) make money by keeping you on their products longer. They do this by monetizing their products through online advertising, which directly correlates with engagement and time spent on their website. The more they know about you, the better they can convert your data into cash.

    Question: What happens when our most valuable businesses operate in this way?

    Answer: Our most brilliant data scientists and software engineers are being taken from every other industry to work on the same objective: keep you online longer.

    According to Tristan Harris, a “design ethicist,” the problem isn’t that people lack willpower; it’s that “there are a thousand people on the other side of the screen whose job it is to break down the self-regulation you have.”

    While you’re scrolling through Instagram, there are thousands of MIT, Harvard, and Berkley engineers running multivariate tests, all to determine the best way to break down your self-control and keep you on their app longer.

    Personally, I find myself being used, all the time.

    Last week, I decided to open Instagram to see what my friends were up to. My intention was to scroll for 5 or 10 minutes, but 30 minutes later I caught myself mindlessly watching puppy video clips. The power dynamic shifted because I was no longer making the choices.

    For the first five minutes, I was in control of the content, but soon after Instagram took over by deciding what to put in front of me. Facebook had been battling for control over my attention, and it had won.

    Digital and online for that matter, isn’t a story of all negatives, there are positives too:

    When I was 18 I received a guitar as a gift. Before then my involvement in playing instruments was limited, however learning guitar was a cool aspiration I’d always had. Unlike generations before me, I shrugged off formal training, and instead took to YouTube for lessons.

    Between the hundreds of videos and endless practicing, I learned how to play guitar and still do today. Sure, that took discipline; I played for at least an hour everyday after school, but there were far less distractions back then.

    This is just one small example; there are millions of people who have elevated their musical ability through the type of lessons the internet can provide. If you take a step back and consider this idea, you’ll recognize that people are applying it to all areas of expertise (ie: coding, art, history, the list goes on).

    So ask yourself, who really has the power in your tech relationship? And further, are are you trading your asset (time and attention) at a positive return? Or perhaps the technology has the upper-hand?

    Summary: The 21st Century has created a new tier of human potential, but the question is…

    Chapter 2:  Which Group Are You In?

    While technology is accelerating our ability to achieve amazing intellectual, creative and productive feats, it’s ability to distract us is accelerating at an equal clip. You can’t go a day without being inspired, yet so distracted at the same time. It’s these conditions that make the digital divide possible.

    Sometimes success is 3% brains and 97% not getting distracted by the internet.

    Shane Parrish

    The digital divide will create two groups:

    Group 1 is able to control their focus and leverage technology to improve themselves, and moreover, reach greater potential.

    [Technology] is a great way to automate a habit. You can save for retirement with an automatic deduction from your paycheck. You can curtail social media browsing with a website blocker.

    Technology can transform actions that were once hard, annoying, and complicated into behaviors that are easy, painless, and simple.

    It is the most reliable and effective way to guarantee the right behavior.

    James Clear

    Meanwhile, Group 2 is trading their time for mindless surfing. Their behavior is not only distracting themselves from the world around them, but it’s also causing them to achieve less.

    And technology can rewire our brains.

    The Sleeping Scientist

    We each have a little scientist named Hank, who manages a lab within our brain. It’s Hank’s job to control your focus, and he does this by balancing your distraction liquid 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

    There’s a constant replenishment of distraction at all times; your thoughts wander as new stimuli enter and exit your external environment.

    Some people are born with more liquid than normal, others develop habits which increase their exposure over time. Ultimately, you train your Hank to manage his beakers in the best way possible. My personal favorite strategy is meditation.

    But the crux of the problem is that digital applications are training your Hank to be irresponsible. Have you ever sat down to work on something, only to find yourself distracted 10 minutes later? What about open your phone to do something, and then completely forget?

    That’s your Hank falling asleep in the lab, and when Hank doesn’t pay attention, he causes leaks and spills.

    Here’s what distraction looks like:

    Small naps lead to extreme compounding. . One laboratory spill leads to a broken beaker, which leads to less liquid control in the future. Lab explosions move from a rarity to a constant affair in your head.

    So over a short period (1-2weeks), the difference is marginal. However as the time series extends further, the differences become insurmountable.

    I’ve written about the power of compounding many times; Albert Einstein dubbed it as one of the greatest wonders of the universe. Talk about a bold statement, especially from a man who revolutionized modern day physics (and astronomy).

    Summary: Whether you’re in Group 1 or Group 2, will become a life-changing characteristic.

    Over the next ten years, this macro trend will lead to enormously disparate outcomes. Great or terrible, it all depends on which group you fall into.


    Chapter 3: The AI Revolution

    We’ve now established that access (per the traditional sense) isn’t the problem; each group can connect to the internet at relatively similar speeds. Instead this divide focuses on the way in which people leverage the internet (use the resource).

    Enter Artificial Intelligence, aka: the great accelerator.

    AI is a comprehensive subject, so I’m going to over-simplify a bit here. If afterwards readers have greater interest in the mechanics, I can write up a separate blog post. But for now, let’s just say there have been some major advancements in the field.

    Once of the largest breakthroughs is around this idea called deep learning.

    Previously you could only train a computer to follow a set of rules (or simple algorithms). You would tell a machine that if it hears the phrase, “Knock, Knock” it needs to answer, “Who’s there?” Any variations from “Knock, Knock” and the computer not be able to respond.

    Now, with deep learning, we can give the computer a massive set of data (in this case jokes) and train it to learn humor. Scientists watch it learn in real time and correct it whenever it makes a mistake. After lots of data and repetition, it eventually “learns” the idea.

    Mechanically the computer forms connections just like how our brains do. These are called neural networks, and to get a better visualization of how these systems work, you can check out the Tensorflow Playground.

    What does this mean for the Digital Divide?

    AI is (already) learning your behaviors, tailoring content, and therefore be able to break you down significantly further.

    Remember those thousands of MIT graduates running multi-variate tests? Now imagine if they programmed a super-computer with more power and genius level pattern recognition. They will now discover things about you that were unfathomable with humans experimenting alone.

    Summary: AI is forming a massive crater in the ground, and it is going to push the two groups further apart.

    It will be on us to make sure there are enough formidable bridges to provide opportunity for those stuck on one side, however more likely than not, AI Valley will destroy your hopes of crossing… if you wait too long.

    Conclusion: Big Distractions or Big Dreams?

    I believe these gaps will be filled over time, but it’s going to take time and large innovations in technology.

    Right now companies are making money off of your time and attention, so there’s no incentive to turn a passive person into a more active person. Yet, if we want to grow to our total potential, we need to flip the script and change the way we use our attention ourselves.

    Which side of the digital divide will you be on?

    The earlier you decide, the more you’ll gain.

    “Don’t be on your deathbed someday, having squandered your one chance at life, full of regret because you pursued little distractions instead of big dreams.”


    ― Derek Sivers

    Will you chase your dreams?

    This post was inspired by:

    Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked by Adam Alter

    The Four: The hidden DNA of Amazon, Apple, Facebook and Google by Scott Galloway

    The Future of Happiness by Amy Blankson

    The Coddling of the American Mind by Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff

    Essays by Tristan Harris

  • Friendship Diagrams – Part 1

    Friendship Diagrams – Part 1

    Ah, Friends.

    Each buddy is unique but have you ever considered the context of your relationships? Or their wider connection to the universe?

    This month, we uncover friendship diagrams (FDs for short); A way to translate your connections onto paper using math and social science. 

    Let’s begin!

    Meet Brent and Ace.

    Each would independently call the other a “best friend.”

    Translated into a Friendship Diagram…

    This visual has four components.

    (1) Arrows show consensus

    For Brent and Ace, it’s a two way street; they each agree a friendship exists between them.

    While subtle, it’s an important distinction because not all friendships go both ways. In fact, many do not.

    Meet Dirk.

    Dirk is kind of a jerk, so nobody really likes him. Sure, you’ll be respectful when he’s around, but you don’t actually want to hang out with the guy.

    Dirk thinks everyone is his friend, but everyone else thinks differently. When we view his FD, Dirk has arrows going out, but sadly, none returning.

    This is a crappy realization, but everyone knows a Dirk. In fact, at one point or another, we’ve likely found ourselves in our own Dirk-like scenario. While this is unavoidable, it could be worse.

    Meet Steven Glansberg.

    Video Reference: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZjH4wnzwk4

    A noble mission: include the Steven Glansbergs and the Dirks.

    (2) Proximity shows depth

    Since Brent and Ace are best friends, it only makes sense that their proximity is close, but distance explains much more. How much do they know about each other? How often do they interact? Do they have similar social circles?

    Bear with me, but the distance can be captured by an equation.

    D = Distance on the Friendship Diagram

    Qt = Quality Time spent together (life experiences and adventure)

    t = Raw Time spent together (idle time and proximity)

    r = Recency (how often you speak / last time you interacted)

    The higher the score (D), the stronger your connection is, and the closer you sit on the diagram.

    The purple bit of the statement describes our time.  

    Quality Time (Qt): When friends define how close they feel, it doesn’t have to do with their physical proximity. Instead, it’s described by how well two people know each other and the experiences they’ve shared together. For example, you may have a childhood friend whom you rarely speak with, yet you’ve grown up together. While your interactions are sparse, you’ve built a serious bond through the events that have shaped you, That’s Quality Time (Qt).

    Time (t): In the same vein, there are those we spend time being around, but we’re not actively deepening relationships with. Think of the co-worker everyone dislikes, your child’s school teacher, even that crazy guy on the Subway. Time still counts towards something, but, when it’s idle or non-bond building, it pushes us away. That’s why Idle Time (t) sits in the denominator of the the equation. If raw time increases without any bond building, we’re slowly drifting apart.

    We want to strive for the highest proportion of quality time together, because idle time eventually erodes our relationships. Consider your friendships; has your time together been quality or idle? When’s the last time you deeply interacted with your friends?

    Recency (r): Just because you’ve built a strong connection, doesn’t mean you don’t need to maintain it. Keeping tabs on your buddies is not just additive but multiplicative. When we plan a fun night with friends, we tend to think of those we’ve interacted with most recently. And, if you’re out of the picture for a while, you can drop out of a friend’s immediate social channel quickly. This is why recency feels as if it’s on an exponential curve, but it’s not (see above). The truth is that you just need to take initiative. When we proactively reach out, we resume our closer proximity… just don’t wait too long.

    Have you been missing in action lately? Check out this post  on how to deepen relationships in the 21st century. (Hint: While it may feel hard, it’s easier than ever to stand out).

    If you break down the math you’ll find that Quality Time (Qt) and Recency (r) are the biggest drivers of Distance. Meaning that the fast lane to building a friendship is to spend time purposely with one another on a more frequent basis. There could be an entire post written on this subject, but to keep it simple: discover shared interests, make plans, and show up. 

    Cool, we’ve learned distance! Now grab your astronomy boots, because we’re going planetary next.

    (3) Mass shows power

    Mass is your weight after you strip away gravity (aka: the force holding us down on Earth).

    But the coolest part about Mass is that it shows us how different bodies interact [1]. The greater a planet’s mass, the more it pulls in other objects around it. Take the Sun and the Earth. It’s estimated that you could fit 1.3 million Earths inside the Sun.

    The Sun is 333,000 times more massive than the Earth. Because it’s so large, there’s an invisible force pulling all the planets in our solar system towards the Sun at all times. This is why the Earth rotates around the Sun and not vice-versa (sorry Aristotle!).

    I posit that our friendships experience the same phenomenons; Friendship Diagrams are like mini-maps of our own universe.

    First off, we can denote each person’s Mass; illustrating the ability of an individual to pull others inward, and keep us together. Just like the periodic table of elements, there is a wide range of Mass out there, or, in this case, “pulling in strength.”

    But there’s a second quality of Mass; the more massive an object, the harder it is change its state of motion [2]. In the case of FD’s, motion isn’t physical, but is a person’s opinions, attitudes, feelings, and decisions to be friends. 

    Take Grace, as an example.

    Hangout with Grace once, no big deal. But make it a weekly occurrence, and she’ll suck you right in. Before you know it, you can’t escape Grace; she’s everywhere you go, socializing more than breathing, hanging out with your friends.

    Want to go bowling? Oh, hey Grace…

    Trying to see Avengers alone? 

    Soon, you can’t make plans, because Grace has already made them for you.

    Grace is the blackhole of friends.

    And there are two things we know about Black Holes.

    #1. The speed of sucking you in accelerates as objects get closer towards the center.

    #2. Once you pass “the point of no return” (Schwarzschild radius), you can never escape [3].

    Together, this forms a massive Grace.

    There are positive versions of this phenomenon, but the main point is to be careful. Our social circles exhibit an abundance of forces, and you can drift far without realizing it.

    Have you wandered off course?

    (4) Color shows uniqueness

    Lastly, while Brent and Ace have similar interests, they are unique people. To illustrate their differences, they are distinct colors.

    When we talk about color in the friendship diagram we mean informational differences, like their education, experiences, values, and goals.

      1. Brenton grew up in the South, he’s from a rural town, and studied Writing in college.
    1. Ace grew up in the North, he’s from an urban town, and studied Business in college.

    Small differences, large shifts in viewpoint.

    This attribute is powerful, and we want to aim for a colorful Friendship Diagram of our own. 

    Adam Grant has a good explanation of why diverse backgrounds and viewpoints matter:

    “You want teams that are cognitively diverse and psychologically safe. A variety of thinking styles—coupled with the freedom to take risks without being punished—enables groups to generate, test, and implement creative ideas. It’s important that our diagrams grow diversely, and we give them the freedom to fail.”

    Think about the internet, would you agree that (when used properly) it can elevate performance? There are a variety of reasons why that may be so, but the internet provides an unfathomable number of data points (many of them being different). While these articles, opinions, and interests may not be relevant or even true, they create new pathways of thought that challenge our decisions. Ultimately, we may only use a small percentage of the data, but having access to unique opinions gives way to the best outcomes – it fights against the echo-chambers of our own selves. Here’s a study from Stanford further explaining this concept.

    Of course, it’s easier to relate to colors that are similar ie: those who have similar backgrounds or experiences. However, we must push ourselves to create relationships with those less like us as too. Performance outcomes are elevated when we increase diversity [2]. And of course, digging deeper we actually find that we are more alike than different.

    “Human beings by nature want happiness… everyone tries to achieve [it]. In this way, [we] are the same, whether rich or poor, education or uneducated, Easterner or Westerner, believer or non-believer, and within believers whether Buddhist, Christian, Jewish, Muslim and so on. Basically from the viewpoint of real human value we are all the same.”

    -Dalai Lama

    We’re all some sort of dot on the friendship diagram, whether our dots are big, small, blue, or green.

    < END of Part 1 >

    Coming up next, our FD over time and more.

    Which attributes do you relate to most?

    Post your comments below.